Sometimes vacationing with family can be more work than fun.
And trying to appease everyone and their plans can be stressful.
This is why so many people choose to travel alone.
Redditor whativedon wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
“AITA for refusing to give my room to my married cousin?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I’m on a 1-week family vacation. My immediate family isn’t here.”
“My dad got me a room at the hotel we were all staying, so I could have my own room.”
“My cousin (32 F[emale]), I’ll call her Jo, her husband, I’ll call him Bill, and their 2 kids had the room next to mine.”
“On the 2nd day, my cousins and I wanted to go to the beach.”
“Jo asked if she could stay in my room because her husband and kids were disturbing her rest.”
“I said ok and gave her my room card.”
“We were gone for like the whole day, when we returned, Jo was still in my room.”
“She had been watching TV, she had actually rented a movie!!!”
“I was angry at this because it was my dad’s credit card on the billing for the room, she apologized and left.”
“The next day, she asked to use my room again and promised not to rent a movie, and I agreed.”
“When I returned, Bill was in my room lying on my bed.”
“I wasn’t mad, but I also didn’t like it.”
“I asked them to leave that I needed to get ready since we were all going out to eat.”
“We’re at the restaurant eating, joking around, having a nice time, when my aunt (Jo’s mom) [the official ‘adult’ of the family vacay said and I quote ‘You’ll be sleeping in Jo’s room with the kids so your elder sister and her husband can have some privacy.'”
“I honestly didn’t think she was talking to me until my uncle snapped at me asking if I was deaf.”
“I looked around, and everyone was looking at me, waiting for my ‘k or yes, ma.'”
“But I said no.”
“The vibe of our table changed.”
“My aunt basically ordered me to hand over my room card, again, I said no.”
“She then said it was wrong of me to expect adults to be sleeping in the same room with their kids when another child has a free room.”
“I’m 22 but I’m also the youngest, sorry I’m 24.”
“Again I said no and asked her to ask someone else.”
“At this, everyone turned on me asking why I needed a room to myself.”
“What was I doing by myself that would make me not want to share with kids.”
“It was so uncomfortable I left the next day.”
“We had plans to go to the theme park, but they all left without me.”
“I called my cousins, but they won’t pick up.”
“I texted and was left on read.”
“I called my dad about this and he told me not to worry he’ll handle it dinner that night.”
“I was called a snitch, that I had run to my dad when I was the one being disrespectful.”
“Then my aunty asked me to leave the table or give my ‘elder sister’ my room card.”
“It was like a go to your room moment.”
“So I went to my room and called my dad again.”
“And this time he told me to just change rooms to hold the peace.”
“My mom and brothers said not to, that they were looking for a free babysitter.”
Her kids aren’t unruly half the time.”
“But I’m not here to babysit.”
“Today, I was left behind again.”
“I don’t know, I’m really upset about this but I also don’t want to give in.”
“I’m thinking of just going home.”
“But it’s quite expensive to change my ticket.”
“So 3 days left of this. 😢😢😢.”
The OP was left to wonder:
“AITA?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.
“I would ask the hotel manager to switch rooms to the other side of the hotel.”
“I then would tell them at no time were you ever asked to be a babysitter.”
“You’re 22 and I have a 22-year-old old I know how much she enjoys her own time.”
“You are NTA.”
“It seems they think they can bully you.”
“Your next recourse is to ask the hotel if you can be refunded for the final days and check in at a different hotel and just meet them at the airport when it’s time to leave.”
“Tell your father you will never go on vacation with your aunt and or any other family vacations as you’re expected to be a childcare provider.”
“They choose to have kids it is their responsibility to make sure they either get a 2-room suite or adjoining rooms and pay for their privacy.”
“If the kids get left with you threaten to call C[hild] P[rotective] S[ervices] and or alert the authorities that children have been left.”
“Honestly when your aunt called you a snitch I would have FaceTimes your dad right then to say here talk to him.”
“But I also would have made a Harry Potter joke when she said you snitched.” ~ Mooshu1981
“This is what I would do.”
“You’re whole family are a bunch of a**holes.”
“Your cousin and husband for going along with it, your aunt and uncle for bullying you, and your cousins for treating you the way they did and leaving you behind.”
“You’re better on your own.”
“It can be hard at first but I think it’s a good thing to be able to enjoy and be comfortable doing things on your own.”
“Do what this comment said and change rooms just so you don’t have anyone knocking on your door.”
“Then enjoy the rest of your trip.”
“Don’t even say anything.”
“Show that you’re unbothered by the situation.”
“Pass by them as if it was nothing and just say hi.”
“If they say anything, just say you didn’t like the way you were treated, and since they abandoned you, this is now your solo trip.”
“If you can’t change rooms, just say no to doing things for them.”
“Make your own arrangements for everything and change your seat so you’re on your own.”
“Or don’t and act normal.”
“Will there be blowback? Sure.”
“But they need to know they can’t treat you like that and thankfully you have your real family’s support on this.”
“Be strong and have fun.” ~ kay87W
“NTA. Ditch these people.”
“You’re now switching to Awesome Solo Holiday Mode.”
“Ask at the front desk about fun and safe things you can do by yourself for the next few days.”
“Plan your excursions.”
“Are there cool things you can walk to in the neighborhood?”
“Do they offer organized tours?”
“Can book cabs for you to places further away.”
“You’re 24, you have accommodation paid for, it’s time for Adventure!”
“Eat food you’ve never tried before, go see some Art, drink co*cktails at 3 pm, go dancing, and come home with some fun new stories!”
“Oh, and make some fun alternate dinner arrangements.”
“No more ridiculous ‘family dinners’ where you get bullied and treated like you’re deserving of less respect than other adults at the table.”
“Twice is quite enough.”
“You’re done here.” ~ Ananotherthing
“NTA- and do the above.”
“Switch hotels if at all possible.”
“Funny how you talking to your dad is snitching, but your cousin whining to her mother is perfectly acceptable.”
“Honestly, don’t engage with your family anymore.”
“Try and find stuff to do there that you like.”
“When you get home chalk it up to a lesson learned and go N[o] C[ontact].”
“They bullied and ostracized you, called you a child and a snitch.”
“That isn’t family and doesn’t deserve any more of your time and energy than this week.” ~ Purple_dragon76
“NTA – If your aunt wants your cousin to have her own, then your aunt can pay for her to have her own room.”
“It isn’t on you.”
“Since they keep ditching you, use this opportunity to do your own things. Screw them.”
“Do the things you want, but no one else wants to.” ~ Green-Factor-2526
“Your dad is a bloody coward. NTA.”
“Make your own plans, don’t eat with the group.”
“Mix with others and go out of your way to have a great time, fake it at first if you have to – let them see that you are happier without their sh*t, and before you know it you’ll find you are actually having a great time for real.”
“Do trips, tours, join other groups, best action here is to go out and show them all how an adult makes the most of a bad situation and enjoys the hell out of themselves.” ~ Tal_Tos_72
“NTA… your family sees you as an easy target to bully.”
“If I were you I would’ve either left or done some of my own solo traveling.”
“They weren’t worth your parents shifting their schedule to play catch up, they aren’t worth your time either.”
“Have some solo fun and please for me just say on the last say, ‘This was the best vacation ever! All the places I got the see and the people’s true colors I got to see!” ~ candyextortionist
“NTA. It’s your room, paid for by your family.”
“At 22, you’re not a kid, you’re an adult.”
“If your cousins were also adults and want privacy, they can pay for a separate room.”
“Since they won’t/can’t, they’re clearly not mature adults able to put on their big boy pants.”
“You don’t need to go with other people to have fun.”
“If you want to go to the theme park and your extended family are being children, just call a taxi/Uber and go.” ~ Meta2048
“NTA, don’t switch.”
“Enjoy the last 3 days, have fun on your own.”
“Go out by yourself.”
“Warn the hotel they will probably try to enter your room, but are not allowed.” ~ Nsr444
“NTA. It’s your room and they aren’t your kids.”
“It’s perfectly normal for parents to stay with their kids when on vacation.”
“They’re just being entitled for no reason.”
“If I were you I’d skip the rest of the family stuff and just enjoy yourself for the next 3 days.” ~ Lollipopwalrus
“NTA. That family sounds like manipulative trash.”
“Just go out on your own and have fun.”
“Post lots of pictures and if they try intimidating you again just tell them to buy a room is they are that desperate to bang.” ~ Wild-Onion8201
Well, OP, Reddit is with you.
If they wanted a separate room for their kids, they should’ve gotten one.
Try to have fun on your own.
Don’t let them ruin your trip.
Good luck.
